Right Speech!!

There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "A speech will either prosper or ruin a nation." Many relationships break off because of wrong speech. When a couple is too close with each other,we always forget mutual respect and courtesy. We may say anything without considering if it would hurt the other party.
 

A friend and her millionaire husband visited their construction site. A worker who wore a helmet saw her and shouted,"Hi, Emily! Remember me? We used to date in the secondary school." On the way home, her millionaire husband teased her, "Luckily you married me.Otherwise you will be the wife of a construction worker." She answered ,"You should appreciate that you married me. Otherwise, he will be the millionaire and not you."
 
Frequently exchanging these remarks, plants the seed for a bad relationship. It's like a broken egg - cannot be reversed.

Decision Making!!!

A group of children were playing near two railway tracks, one still in use while the other disused. Only one child played on the disused track, the  rest on the operational track.

 

The train is coming, and you are just beside the track interchange.

You can make the train change its course to the disused track and save most of the kids.
 
However, that would also mean the lone child playing by the disused track would be sacrificed. Or would you rather let the train go its way?

Just think what kind of decision we would make........ ...... 

Most people might choose to divert the course of the train, and sacrifice only one child. Because to save most of the children at the expense of only one child was rational decision most people would make, morally and emotionally. But, have you ever thought that the child choosing to play on the disused track had in fact made the right decision to play at a safe place?
Nevertheless, he had to be sacrificed because of his ignorant friends who chose to play where the danger was.
 
This kind of dilemma happens around us everyday. In the office, community, in politics and especially in a democratic society, the minority is often sacrificed for the interest of the majority, no matter how foolish or ignorant the majority are, and how farsighted and knowledgeable the minority are. The child who chose not to play with the rest on the operational track was sidelined. And in the case he was sacrificed, no one would shed a tear for him.
 
The great critic Leo Velski Julian who told the story, said he would not try to change the course of the train because he believed that the kids playing on the operational track should have known very well that track was still in use, and that they should have run away if they heard the train's sirens.
 
If the train was diverted, that lone child would definitely die because he never thought the train could come over to that track!

Moreover, that track was not in use probably because the track was not safe. If the train was diverted to the track, we could put the lives of all passengers on board at stake! And in the attempt to save a few kids by sacrificing one child, you might end up sacrificing hundreds of people to save these few kids. 
 
While we are all aware that life is full of tough decisions that need to be made, we may not realize that hasty decisions may not always be the right one. 

A Blind Beggar

A blind boy sat on the steps of a building with a hat by his feet. He held up a sign which said: 'I am blind, please help.'

 

 

There were only a few coins in the hat. A man was walking by. He took a few coins from his pocket and dropped them into the hat. He then took the sign, turned it around, and wrote some words.

 

He put the sign back so that everyone who walked by would see the new words.

 

Soon the hat began to fill up. A lot more people were giving money to the blind boy. That afternoon the man who had changed the sign came to see how things were. The boy recognized his footsteps and asked, 'Were you the one who changed my sign this morning? What did you write?'

The man said, 'I only wrote the truth. I said what you said but in a different way.' What he had written was: 'Today is a beautiful day and I cannot see it.'

 

Do you think the first sign and the second sign were saying the same thing?

 

Of course both signs told people the boy was blind. But the first sign simply said the boy was blind. The second sign told people they were so lucky that they were not blind. Should we be surprised that the second sign was more effective?

Moral of the Story: Be thankful for what you have.

                                     Be creative...

                                     Be innovative.. .

                                     Think differently and positively.

 

Invite others towards good with wisdom. Live life with no excuse and love with no regrets. When life gives you a 100 reasons to cry, show life that you have 1000 reasons to smile. Face your past without regret. Handle your present with confidence.. Prepare for the future without fear. Keep the faith and drop the fear.

 

Great men say, 'Life has to be an incessant process of repair and reconstruction, of discarding evil and developing goodness.... In the journey of life, if you want to travel without fear, you must have the ticket of a good conscience.'

A Donkey in the Well

One day a farmer's donkey fell down into a well. The animal cried
piteously for hours as the farmer tried to figure out what to do.

Finally he decided the animal was old, and the well needed to be
covered up anyway, it just wasn't worth it to retrieve the donkey. He
invited all his neighbors to come over and help him. They each grabbed
a shovel and began to shovel dirt into the well.

At first, the donkey realized what was happening and cried horribly.
Then, to everyone's amazement, he quieted down.

A few shovel loads later, the farmer looked down the well, and was
astonished at what he saw. As every shovel of dirt hit his back, the
donkey did something amazing. He would shake it off and take a step
up.

As the farmer's neighbors continued to shovel dirt on top of the animal,
he would shake it off and take a step up. Pretty soon, everyone was
amazed, as the donkey stepped up over the edge of the well and trotted off.

The Moral:

Life is going to shovel dirt on you, all kinds of dirt. The trick to
getting out of the well is to shake it off and take a step up. Each of our
troubles a stepping stone. We can get out of the deepest wells just by not
stopping, never giving up! Shake it off and take a step up!

Life is about Correcting Mistakes...Nice One!!

Monica married Hitesh this day. At the end of the wedding party, Monica's mother gave her a newly opened bank saving passbook. With Rs.1000 deposit amount. Mother: 'Monica, take this passbook. Keep it as a record of your marriage life. When there's something happy and memorable happened in your new life, put some money in. Write down what it's about next to the line. The more memorable the event is, the more money you can put in. I've done the first one for you today. Do the others with Hitesh.When you look back after years, you can know how much happiness you've had.' Monica shared this with Hitesh when getting home. They both thought it was a great idea and were anxious to know when the second deposit can be made. This was what they did after certain time: - 7 Feb: Rs.100, first birthday celebration for Hitesh after marriage - 1 Mar: Rs.300, salary raise for Monica - 20 Mar: Rs.200, vacation trip to Bali - 15 Apr: Rs.2000, Monica got pregnant - 1 Jun: Rs.1000, Hitesh got promoted ..... and so on... However, after years, they started fighting and arguing for trivial things.They didn't talk much. They regretted that they had married the most nasty people in the world.... no more love...Kind of typical nowadays, huh?

One day Monica talked to her Mother:

'Mom, we can't stand it anymore. We agree to divorce. I can't imagine how
I decided to marry this guy!!!'

Mother: 'Sure, girl, that's no big deal. Just do whatever you want if you
really can't stand it. But before that, do one thing first. Remember the
saving passbook I gave you on your wedding day? Take out all money and
spend it first. You shouldn't keep any record of such a poor marriage.'

Monica thought it was true. So she went to the bank, waiting at the queue
and planning to cancel the account.

While she was waiting, she took a look at the passbook record. She looked,
and looked, and looked. Then the memory of all the previous joy and
happiness just came up her mind. Her eyes were then filled with tears. She
left and went home.

When she was home, she handed the passbook to Hitesh, asked him to spend
the money before getting divorce.

The next day, Hitesh gave the passbook back to Monica. She found a new
deposit of Rs.5000.

And a line next to the record: 'This is the day I notice how much I've
loved you thru out all these years. How much happiness you've brought me.'

They hugged and cried, putting the passbook back to the safe.
I don't know how much they saved .I believe the money did not matter any
more after they had gone thru all the good years in their life.

"When you fall, in any way, Don't see the place where you fell, Instead
see the place from where you slipped. Life is about correcting mistakes."

BE PATIENT...

This is a true story which happened in the States...

A man came out of his home to admire his new truck. To his puzzlement, his three-year-old son was happily hammering dents into the shiny paint of the truck. The man ran to his son, knocked him away, hammered the little boy's hands into pulp as punishment. When the father calmed down, he rushed his son to the hospital.
 
Although the doctor tried desperately to save the crushed bones, he finally had to amputate the fingers from both the boy's hands. When the boy woke up from the surgery & saw his bandaged stubs, he innocently said, " Daddy,I'm sorry about your truck." Then he asked, "but when are my fingers going to grow back?" The father went home & committed suicide.
 
Think about this story the next time someone steps on your feet or u wish to take revenge. Think first before u lose your patience with someone u love. Trucks can be repaired.. Broken bones & hurt feelings often can't. Too often we fail to recognize the difference between the person and the performance. We forget that forgiveness is greater than revenge.

People make mistakes. We are allowed to make mistakes. But the actions we take while in a rage will haunt us forever.

 

A Reminder for Hard Working People!!!

A man came home from work late, tired and irritated, to find his  
       5-year-old son waiting for him at the door...

      Son: "Daddy, may I ask you a question"

      Daddy: "Yeah sure, what it is?"

      Son: "Dad, how much do you make an hour"

      Daddy: "That's none of your business. Why do you ask such a thing? " that man said           angrily

      Son: "I just want to know. Please tell me, how much do you make an
      hour?"

      Daddy: "I make Rs. 500 an hour"

      "Oh", the little boy replied, with his head down. Looking up, he  said,

      "Dad, may I please borrow Rs. 300?"

      The father was furious, "if the only reason you asked that  is so
      you can borrow some money to buy a silly toy or other nonsense,
      then march yourself to your room and go to bed. Think why you are
      being so selfish. I work hard everyday for such this childish
      behavior"

      The little boy quietly went to his room and shut the door. The man
      sat down and started to get even angrier about the little boy's
      questions.

      How dare he ask such questions only to get some money?

      After about an hour or so, the man had calmed down, and started to
      think:"May be there was something he really needed to buy with that
      Rs. 300 and he really didn't ask f! or money very often!"

      The man went to the door of little boy's room and opened the door.
      "Are you asleep, son?" He asked.
      "No daddy, I'm awake," replied the boy.

      "I've been thinking, may be I was too hard on you earlier", said
      the man, "It's been a long day and I took out my aggravation on
      you. Here's the Rs.300 you asked for" The little boy sat straight
      up, smiling "oh thank you dad!" He yelled.

     Then, reaching under his pillow he pulled some crippled up
      notes.The man, seeing that the boy already had money, started to
      get angry again.

      The little boy slowly counted out his money, then looked up at his
      father.
     
      "Why do you want money if you already had some?" the father
      grumbled.

      "Because I didn't have enough, but now I do," the little boy
      replied."Daddy I have Rs. 500 now. Can I buy an hour of your time?
      Please come home early tomorrow. I would like to have dinner with
      you"

      MORAL:
      It's just a short reminder to all of you working so hard in life.
      We should not let time slip through our fingers without having
      spent some time with those who really matter to us, those close to
      our hearts.

      If we die tomorrow, the company that we are working for could
      easily replace us in a matter of days. But the family & friends we
      leave behind will feel the loss for the rest of their lives. And
      come to think of it, we pour ourselves more into work than to our
      family. An unwise investment indeed!

A Date with MOM

After 21 years of Marriage, my wife wanted me to take another Woman out to Dinner and a Movie.
 

She said I Love You but I know this other Woman loves you and would Love to spend some Time with You.

The other Woman that my Wife wanted me to visit was my MOTHER,
who has been a Widow for 19 years,
but the demands of my Work and my three Children had made it possible to visit her only occasionally.


That night I called to Invite her to go out for Dinner and a Movie.


'What's wrong, are you well,' she asked?
My Mother is the type of Woman who suspects that
a Late Night Call or a Surprise Invitation is a sign of Bad News.


'I thought that it would be pleasant to be with you,' I responded.
'Just the two of us.'


She thought about it for a moment, and then said, 'I would like that very much.'


That Friday after work, as I drove over to pick her up I was a bit Nervous.
When I arrived at her House, I noticed that she too seemed to be Nervous about our Date.
She waited in the Door with her Coat on.
She had Curled her Hair and was wearing the Dress that she had worn to Celebrate her last Wedding Anniversary.


She smiled from a face that was as Radiant as an Angel's.


'I told my Friends that I was going to go out with My Son, and they were impressed, '
She said, as she got into the Car.
'They can't wait to hear about our meeting'.
We went to a Restaurant that, although not Elegant, was very Nice and Cozy.
My Mother took my Arm as if She were the First Lady.


After we sat down, I had to read the Menu. Large Print.
Half way through the entries, I lifted my eyes and saw Mom sitting there staring at me.
A Nostalgic Smile was on her Lips.


'It was I who used to have to Read the Menu when you were Small,'
She said.
'Then it's Time that you Relax and let me Return the Favor,'
I responded.

During the Dinner, we had an Agreeable Conversation, nothing Extra-ordinary,
but catching up on recent Events of each other's Life.
We talked so much that we missed the Movie.


As we arrived at her House later,
She said, 'I'll go out with you again, but only if you let me invite you.'
I agreed.


'How was your Dinner Date?' asked My Wife when I got Home.
'Very Nice. Much more so than I could have Imagined,' I answered.


A few days later, my Mother died of a Massive Heart Attack.
It happened so suddenly that I didn't have Time to do anything for her.
Some time later, I received an Envelope with a Copy of a Restaurant Receipt
from the same place Mother and I had dined.


An Attached Note Said:
'I paid this Bill in Advance.
I wasn't sure that I could be there;
But nevertheless, I paid for Two Plates –
One for You and the Other for Your Wife.
You will never know what that Night meant for Me.
I Love You,
My Son.'


At that moment, I understood the Importance of saying in Time:'I LOVE YOU!'
and to give our Loved Ones the Time that they Deserve.
Nothing in Life is more important than your parents and your Family.
Give them the Time they Deserve, because these Things cannot be Put Off till 'Some Other Time.'


Pass This Along To Everyone
With An Aging Parent,
To A Child,
To An Adult,
To Anyone With A Parent,
And Most Importantly,
To Someone You Truly Love..